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Everyone has one song which reminds them of something: a holiday, a wedding day, a memorable occasion; and, of course, a death. Such is the case with those who have suffered the tragic death of a child, and many bereaved parents have a cluster of songs which they will forever associate with their loss.
These songs are diverse in their nature, ranging from the violin strains of classical music through to the drum and beat of rap. They can be chosen through careful thought, the nature of their lyrics, or simply because the song was playing at the time of their baby's death or funeral and has forever taken a place in their memory.
One of my interviewees told me of a quote she'd read in a book, 'An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination' by Elizabeth McCracken, which read: 'Grief lasts longer than sympathy.'
This was a recurring theme in my research for 'How I Came To Hold You'; parents received welcome sympathy from friends and family in the weeks following the death of their child, but soon enough everyone returned to their own lives, leaving the grieving parents bobbing in their wake, in the limbo which exists between tragedy and acceptance.