The damage caused when a baby dies is incalculable: explaining the loss to parents, to siblings; dealing with friends and family who have no words; facing the day with empty arms. But what effect does the loss of a baby have on the relationship between the baby's parents?
In some cases, their shared grief brings them closer together and their relationship is galvanised, stronger than before. However, in others, the loss is a wedge driven between them. There is no right or wrong: both parents are different people, altered through circumstances beyond their control. Everything has changed.
Abigail would forever be a part of their lives, but Jo and David were keen for
her never to be forgotten: and so, when David was home, they talked about
Abigail, finding therapy in their conversation. Their loss strengthened their
relationship, and they spent hours talking about how they felt, and the future;
each person providing strength and encouragement to the other.
- Jo and David Ward, parents of Abigail - their story can be found in 'How I Came To Hold You'